Authentic Beauty: How Irresistibly Beautiful Are You?
The Barbie Life
Most of us have owned or at least seen a Barbie, right? I was obsessed with Barbies, playing with them nonstop daily. But here’s the thing—Barbie is just one of the many ways society has shaped our toxic beauty standards. At a young age, we’re already exposed to the ideas of what the “perfect” body and life should look like. Barbie’s been part of that influence for decades, making us believe that’s what natural authentic beauty is supposed to be.
But this isn’t a blog about Barbie—it’s about what real authentic beauty is, without all those outside influences. Let’s talk about beauty’s meaning when we stop letting society call the shots.
The True Definition of Authentic Beauty
The Oxford Dictionary defines beauty as “the quality of being pleasing to the senses or the mind.” Being Authentic means being ‘true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character.’
At first, it may seem that beauty focuses mainly on external appearances, but authentic beauty is so much more than that. It often hinges on the feelings and thoughts of the person experiencing it. If someone finds you beautiful, it’s likely because your personality resonates with them. This happens naturally, even if they’re not fully aware of it.
You might be wondering, “Why would that be the case?”
Well, think about it. Connecting with someone—whether through shared laughter, kindness, or understanding—creates something deeper. This sense of authentic beauty goes beyond physical attributes. It’s the warmth of a genuine smile that sparks joy and comfort. This makes us perceive that person as beautiful, regardless of societal standards.
The Twisted Reality
We’ve allowed ourselves to forget the true definition of authentic beauty over the past few years. For so many of us, beauty has become all about physical attractiveness, and what’s inside doesn’t get nearly enough attention.
The influence of social media through the number of likes, shares, comments, and views we get has put so much pressure on us. We constantly feel the need to meet today’s trends, beauty standards, and levels of popularity. This causes us to forget one simple truth: we’re here to live for ourselves, not for others.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life
Steve Jobs
Beauty today is sold to us through images of flawless skin, toned bodies, and perfect features. It’s exhausting trying to keep up. When did we stop appreciating the authentic beauty that comes from within?!
How To See The Authentic Beauty From Within?
Authentic beauty radiates from the way someone makes others feel. Shift your focus from physical attributes to the energy and kindness they project. True authentic beauty radiates from their personality, kindness, confidence, and how they make others feel.
Look Beyond the Surface
How does the person interact with others? Are they warm and friendly or cold and distant? Ever heard of the first impression? Research says that the first impression happens within the first 7 seconds of meeting someone. However, in reality, it happens so quickly that we don’t even realize it.
Meeting someone for the first time, I can quickly sense what kind of person they are. Our auras either connect or clash. That’s when I know if we’ll vibe or not.
Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover
Just because someone is pretty or good-looking doesn’t mean that they are a nice person. We often forget that appearance only tells part of the story.
Even if someone seems to have it all—the perfect life, partner, and job—doesn’t mean it reflects what’s going on inside. Social media, for example, is like a mask that hides reality. You can fake what you show to the camera, but when it’s off, you are just you again. Just another average person fighting through daily life struggles.
Before becoming ill with an eating disorder, I too, judged people by their appearance. It wasn’t until I met many different people in the hospital—people I might’ve previously judged—that my mindset shifted. I began to understand the importance of knowing someone from within, beyond their exterior. Now, instead of judging, I at least give people the time and space to show me who they are beyond their looks.
What do I do if I catch myself judging someone by their looks?
If I catch myself judging someone by their looks, I simply bring the focus back to myself. I think about how I would feel if someone judged me just by my appearance without knowing me. That thought alone helps me shift my perspective.
They say, ‘Treat others the way you want to be treated,’ and it’s a reminder I live by. By doing this, I realize how much more important it is to truly get to know someone beyond their looks. Everyone deserves that chance.
treat others the way you want to be treated
Be Authentic
I wasn’t popular in school; no one liked me. Even though, I tried to blend in, to talk, act, and behave the way others did. I was still being left in the dark. At the time, it made me feel alone. Now, I see why it was the best thing that happened to me.
Ain’t nobody gonna tell me what to do!
Caring for Your Body
Authentic beauty doesn’t start with creams, surgery, or makeup—it starts from within. It’s important to ask yourself these questions: Are you nourishing your body, staying active, and caring for your mental health? These simple acts of self-love define real beauty.
In my opinion, a natural face is way more beautiful than a fake one, but that’s a choice only you can make.
Positive Mindset
Having a positive mindset doesn’t just change how you feel—it shapes the energy, or “vibe,” that you project into the world. People, and even animals, can sense this vibe. It’s either going to attract and connect you with others or create a kind of “aura rejection.” The energy you put out often determines the connections you make.
The Authentic Affirmation Trick
I have mentioned affirmations many a time throughout all my blogs which you can find here:
Other great blogs are:
- The Power of Positive Affirmations
- Positive Daily Affirmations: Is There Science Behind It?
- The power of positive thinking and affirmations
This blog is engaging and reflective, weaving personal anecdotes and practical insights together effectively. It also offers a strong foundation on the concept of authentic beauty. To wrap up the blog on a high note, here’s a suggested ending:
Embracing Your Authentic Beauty
Embracing who you truly are—flaws and all—allows your authentic beauty shine. Remember: beauty is more than skin deep.
Next time you look in the mirror, ask yourself: what makes my inner self beautiful?
You can find a timeline of how beauty standards have changed over the years, here.
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